We had the (approximately) twenty-week ultrasound yesterday, the one where they check the baby’s anatomy and size and make sure everything’s developing normally. Of course, this is also the ultrasound when you can find out the gender. And we’re having…
Exactly what kind of baby that is, we’ll learn when we meet her or him next March: we decided not to find out now. Well, I didn’t want to know, but James did, so I kept putting my hands over his eyes when the ultrasound tech was checking and measuring the lower anatomy, but he kept trying to peek anyway. He even spent time searching images and videos about how to read an ultrasound for the gender before our appointment, because he knew I wouldn’t let him find out.
Ten seconds after walking out of the room, he announced, “We are definitely having a boy.” I was disappointed–not to be having another boy, but to know already. But then he went to the bathroom and when he came out he said, “I think we’re having a girl.” Which is to say that we have no idea. =)
When I was pregnant with August, we didn’t find out the baby’s gender, keeping it a surprise for the big day. I loved the mystery of not knowing. When I was pregnant with Leif, we did find out. We had a lot of stressful and unknown events all happening that fall around his due date: moving to Stockholm, James finishing his US citizenship application process, August beginning full-time at preschool for the first time. I thought it might be nice to know something about what was going to happen that September!
I much preferred the experience of not knowing, which is why I didn’t want to find out this time. We’ve never felt it was important to have clothes, toys, and accessories that evoke the baby’s gender (whatever this one turns out to be, she or he will be wearing and playing with hand-me-downs from big brothers). We’ll keep lists of names we love, but even if we knew the gender, we wouldn’t give a name already; I feel strongly about waiting to meet the baby before giving him or her a name. I think it’s so strange to name a baby before it’s born!
That said, I did do an online Chinese gender predictor (based on maternal age at conception and month of conception), which said I’d have a girl. I entered the same info for the older two kids, and it correctly predicted them both to be boys. Just to check that, though, this morning I did another Chinese gender predictor and got a solid boy answer–so who knows?!
Did you find out the baby’s gender while expecting? Why? Some people love knowing and some people don’t–I’m so curious to know the “whys” for both sides!
Photo by me.