So I’m approximately a week into my happiness project, and I’ll be honest: it’s not going so well.
As you can see from the picture above, I’m doing so-so at keeping my resolutions. Some things, like lying with my legs up the wall and writing a to-do list, have been easy to do; while other things, like getting to bed by 10:30pm and exercising, are proving more of a challenge. So I went for a long walk this afternoon to think about why…
Truth is, I’m just more committed to some of these resolutions than to the others. I actually am getting enough sleep already, so this 10:30pm thing feels–and is–arbitrarily imposed. I think I’m going to scratch it off the list for the rest of the month. Exercise has been a challenge primarily because we spent the entire weekend together doing things to celebrate my birthday–sailing all day Saturday, then going to Gröna Lund, an amusement park in the center of Stockholm. Those were gorgeous, fun days, and exercise just wasn’t a part of the plan. Also, James and I need to get better about giving each other some time off during the weekends.
Some things have been surprisingly easy, like writing a to-do list and stretching my legs at the end of the day. I can think of dozens of things to do every day, but I forget to write them down–and thus, I forget to do them. Having this checklist to remind me helps me get these nagging things out of my brain, where they annoy me (or get lost!), and onto paper, where I can do something about them and then forget them. Lying with my legs up the wall has been a calming nighttime ritual, almost like meditation. I’m so glad to be holding myself to that.
As I do these small things to help build more energy and vitality, I realize that there’s something that’s driving me crazy at home and eating up my mental energy: clutter. It’s time to do the seasonal clothing shift, as well as the pregnancy clothing shift. I have piles of clothes in drawers and cupboards that are all meant to go somewhere else. I also have a constant spread of papers, books, receipts, etc. on an extra table in the study that clouds my mind and my mood every time I see it–it desperately needs sorting, and our shelving needs some useful organization.
I’m thinking I should add a resolution that will get me working on clearing out these areas, but they all seem like big one-time tasks. Or maybe I can just do a few minutes each day. Initially I was going to wait for a different month and focus area to work on this stuff, but I realize now it’s affecting my mental health and I should get to it sooner rather than later. Do you have any suggestions for a resolution/tactic to tackle this stuff in a manageable, sustainable way? Should I just add something like “15 minutes of decluttering” to my chart?
More on the first month of my happiness project.
Photo by me.
Oh, and while we’re talking about happiness, here’s some: