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What Is "Enough" In the Middle of Winter?

January 3, 2017 By Jodi

Blue and orange sky over water at sunrise

Happy New Year! How's 2017 going for you so far? We've been having a lovely time; the kids are off school, so yesterday we went on a train adventure to the Natural History Museum (Naturhistoriska Riksmuseet), and today James and I are trying to get a couple hours of work in while the kids play at a friend's house (note: expect only a couple posts this week). It's the first time we've ever dropped them with a friend and left! I suspect they're having way more fun playing with new toys and right-sized friends than sitting around with boring old mom and dad. =)

While scrambling to get some work done with two kiddos underfoot, we're also preparing for a trip to Spain. Late next week, we leave for a small seaside town called Nerja for two weeks. After our first full winter in Sweden a couple years ago, we realized that we couldn't do it again: it's just too bleak, dark, and cold for us to endure the eight-month winter with no reprieve. Last year, even August seemed to get quite depressed in December and January, so we whisked off to Portugal for a month. This year we chose Spain, and we're looking forward to sunshine and warmth, going for walks without bundling the kids into multiple layers plus overalls and hats and mittens, and watching sunrise before 8:45am.

Last year, after we booked our midwinter trip to Portugal, we had dinner with the neighbors. We told them how excited we were to be going, to get some sunlight and warmth and take a break from the Swedish winter. Do you guys ever go away in the winter? we asked. No, Henrik replied. Each day the sun rises earlier and I watch the light return. That is enough. 

His comment really struck me. Watching the sun rise just one minute earlier than the previous day, seeing the days slowly elongate, feeling the light gradually come back: enough. There was a time in my life when maybe that would have been enough for me, too—appreciating the nuances between days, quietly watching the sun rise and set with a journal and a cup of tea; but now I have young boys, and the very notion of subtlety is laughable at best.

Sun rising over ocean

Now, when life is already hard enough, with daily tears and tantrums and fights to get dressed to go outside and the endless (endless!) picking up of Lego, I need something with a little more zest to help me through the winter. Beach walks, warm afternoons at the park, ten hours of sunlight every day, the Mediterranean—yes, please! It feels not so much a luxury as a necessity, a mental health break, an injection of Vitamin D to keep us going.

But I do keep returning to this notion of enough. What is enough? This morning after waking, Leif and I laid down on the couch together under a thick, soft blanket. I wrapped him in my arms, feeling his smooth baby skin against mine, listening to his breathing. He pulled at my elbows, as he always does when tired or resting, and cuddled into me. We tapped each other's noses, then played with exhaling onto each other (the things kids find interesting!); mostly we just laid there, nestled into our warmth, still and quiet. And that—that was enough.

Leif snoozing on couch with Papa

What is enough for you now, in the depth of winter? What are your simplest pleasures? What are you savoring in this season?

Even though we're escaping the winter for a few weeks, we're still dreaming about our next Swedish summer.

Photos by Den Heslop, Kazuend, and me. 

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  1. Alexandra Moresco

    January 6, 2017 at 7:24 pm

    Spain sounds AMAZING! I hope you have an amazing time and a happy and healthy 2017!

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    • Jodi

      January 6, 2017 at 7:25 pm

      Yeah, I'm hoping that Spain cures my midwinter blues. And thanks for the tip on the FB group, I'll check it out now.

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  2. darrell parsons

    January 7, 2017 at 3:06 pm

    I think it's often hard to be satisfied with "enough". No matter what one has, does or experiences, there is always "more". For me, in my best moments, enough is better than more. I just ran across a book titled, "Hardwiring Happiness". I haven't read it - only read about it. As I understand it, the gist is that if we can learn to appreciate things like the extra minute of light you mention in your essay, we will be happier people - and can sort of reprogram our brains to live more in that direction. Apparently the hard part is first noticing that sort of small thing, and then taking a moment to feel the pleasure in it. I've read numerous quotes from this book at... https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/23859761-hardwiring-happiness-the-new-brain-science-of-contentment-calm-and-co

    In general, I am skeptical of books which promise happiness, but in his quotes at least, I find his approach appealing, and his specific strategies doable. I think some people are naturally better than others at noticing the positive moments in their lives. For me, it's a conscious effort, but when I am able to do it, I enjoy life more.

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    • Jodi

      January 9, 2017 at 2:52 pm

      Thanks for this comment, Darrell. There's a lovely Kurt Vonnegut passage that maybe you're familiar with in which he advocates saying: "If this isn't nice, I don't know what is." You can read the passage here: http://gretchenrubin.com/happiness_project/2007/04/a_quotation_fro_1/. I think practicing that sentiment would help in rewiring the brain.
      Let me know if you read the book, and if so, what you think!

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  3. Kristin

    March 19, 2017 at 3:35 am

    I just read this article and thought that you would appreciate it. I found the researcher's approach to this topic so creative.
    https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/07/the-norwegian-town-where-the-sun-doesnt-rise/396746/

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    • Jodi

      March 20, 2017 at 12:53 pm

      Thanks for sharing this link. I really liked this article, and have been thinking the past few days about the "winter mindset" and how I totally don't have it. =( My first winter in Sweden, I thought I could power through and winter would be no big deal, but by April I realized I was depressed. I think to thrive in this long, dark winters, one has to have an actively positive mindset, not just passively positive as I had.

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