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In Praise of Social Media

November 7, 2016 By Jodi

Mac laptop and iPhones on desk

It's so popular today to bash social media for what seems like all the ills of society, especially for creating distance between people by adding an electronic intermediary where there once may have been personal contact. Of course there is some truth in this, though I've always felt that the good or ills of social media (and electronic devices) lies in the beholder. Social media can be an excellent tool when used wisely, if not sparingly.

When my dad died nearly four weeks ago, I spent the week after his death thousands of miles and on ocean away from my family and my childhood home. The distance was, and felt, enormous. From the moment I posted an announcement on Facebook, messages of all kinds, through all sorts of social and electronic media, began pouring in.

Facebook post condolences

A local friend here in Sweden saw the post, messaged me, and had brought a small, caring gift within hours. Hundreds of friends, from people I hadn't seen in decades, to people who never met my father, to my closest friends from every stage of life, sent notes of condolence including poems, songs, memories, and prayers.

And the surprising thing? It was truly consoling. Hearing from people who cared about me and cared about my father made me feel so much less alone despite the great distance between me and my family. I loved reading memories of my father, and I loved getting messages from people I hadn't talked to since I was ten. It really did help, every day, to read and reread the messages. It helped me to feel less alone in my loss, and less distant from everyone I loved.

So let's go on trying to live our lives outside of our devices and our social networks, but let's also remember that they can indeed be incredibly powerful tools of connection when wielded with warmth and wisdom.

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Photo by Parker Byrd.

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  1. Tim

    November 7, 2016 at 7:01 pm

    Thanks for this! This is the topic I'm researching at Stockholm University, more or less. Online support can definitely help, at least for some.

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    • Jodi

      November 8, 2016 at 10:11 am

      Tim, I'm curious to learn more about your research. I remember your previous comment about bereavement on one of my happiness posts. Are you looking specifically at social media, or are you focusing more on things like focused support groups?

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      • Tim

        November 8, 2016 at 1:05 pm

        I work with a team of colleagues interested in the existential side of digital media, and we study all sorts of different things. My research includes religion, the afterlife, gender and emotion, and my colleagues also study social media, online memorials and support groups. If you'd like to know more, there's a project website here: et.ims.su.se. We also run a Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/DIGMEX/

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        • Jodi

          November 8, 2016 at 2:42 pm

          I just looked at the FB page -- fascinating! Some really interesting links and thoughts there. Thanks for sharing this.

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  2. Beth

    November 8, 2016 at 1:15 am

    Jodi,
    I love your writing and reading this made me feel good. So thank you for sharing.
    You have grown into a remarkable woman. I am so proud of you.

    Take care.

    Love - Beth

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    • Jodi

      November 8, 2016 at 10:08 am

      Thanks, Beth. =)

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